20 Things You Should Run From On a First Date
First dates can be very daunting events. What makes them the most daunting is trying to weed out the good guys from the bad guys. Here are some warning signs for the first date. If you see one or more of these signs, be very weary!
He says, “I’m not over my ex”
Well duh! If he’s not over his ex AND if he’s dumb enough to tell you that he’s not over her... then run for the hills and do not look back. Clearly he has no common sense and he shouldn’t even be on a date if he still has feelings for someone else.
If he creepily stares at you all dinner
There’s nothing worse than a guy who stares at you. Take a bite of food, look up, he’s staring at you. Go to the bathroom, come back out to the dinner table and he stares at you the entire way up. Eye contact is a good thing if it’s done correctly
If he smells like cheese
A clean and healthy man will smell like a clean and healthy man. A man who does not take care of himself will likely smell like cheese and feet. If a man cannot even take care of himself, there’s no way that he will be able to care for you or be responsible for anything.
He says, “You’re the one for me” 5 minutes into the date
Some people may call this a stage five clinger. Even if things are going very well in the first few minutes of a date, there’s no reason on God’s green earth why a guy should feel the need to tell you that you belong together- for eternity.
He says, “I hate labels like “girlfriend” and stuff
The dude is a commitment phobe. If he is saying that he doesn’t want to put a label on a relationship, then he’s pretty much saying that he does not want to be faithful to you should the relationship go further. This is not a trustworthy person.
He says, “My friend is a moron, guess what he did last weekend?"
A first date is not the place to talk trash or throw your friend under the bus. Your friends should be people who you care for and hold in high regards. If a guy is telling you that his friend is a moron, just think of the stuff he’ll eventually say about you.
If he tries to do more than just kiss you
Sealing the deal after a first date is no good. If a man likes you, he will respect you and wait to sexually take the relationship to the next level in time. If he tries to make a move then he has one thing and one thing only on his mind...sex.
If he asks you to split the bill.
Chivalry is not dead. A man should pay the bill, that’s just the way it is. If he asks you to split the bill, walk away.
If he texts or makes a phone call.
If he’s on the phone with his buddies or texting throughout the date, this is not the guy for you. Phones shouldn’t even be out on the first date unless he is showing you a funny picture or a video or something. Being on his phone shows that there are more important things than you.
If he gets wasted
Don’t get me wrong, having a drink to take the edge off things and loosen up a little bit is totally fine. Getting wasted is totally not fine. When a guy gets drunk, he turns into a completely different person. Not to mention the fact that he should stay clear headed so he can remember the date and learn things about you. Save the cocktails for future dates.
If he tells you he’s probably not good enough for you
A guy who makes statements like this either has really low self-esteem or he is fishing for compliments. Sure, it’s unattractive for a guy to be super cocky, but its also unattractive for a guy to completely lack self confidence.
If he asks a bunch of personal questions
Getting to know someone on a date is a good thing. Asking too many personal questions is a bad thing. The first date should be about learning basic things about each other. If a guy is asking personal questions, this is a red flag.
If it seems too good to be true
Fairy tales rarely happen. Most times, if it seems too good to be true, then it is too good to be true. This is a sad sad thing but it’s just reality.
If he talks about his ex negatively
This is a huge turn off! If your guy has to turn to trash talking his ex then he’s probably not over it and he’s probably not into you. We’re not supposed to have to “mend his broken” heart on the first date!
If he seems to be jealous
Jealousy can be a scary thing to encounter on the first date. If you immediately see signs of jealousy, this can mean that a guy is possessive or uncomfortable in his own skin. Watch out for this.
If he talks about his finances
No no no! If he’s talking about money he is either bragging about how much he has or complaining that he is about to go broke. Either way, it’s an awkward subject that should not be brought up on a first date.
If he uses a coupon to pay.
This is just tacky. It seem like the guy is being cheap and informal. We don’t expect a lobster dinner for the first date, but we certainly don’t expect a coupon dinner either.
If he’s late
Unless there was some huge life or death emergency, he shouldn’t be late. Punctuality is important in so many aspects of life and dating is no exception. If a guy is late, it will get us stressed out and wonder if we are being stood up. This is unnecessary stress added.
If he farts and laughs about it.
Farts shouldn’t be let out until you are comfortable around each other. If he farts and laughs, you know he probably did it on purpose. This is just gross and tacky. Hold it in fellas.
Says he’s a mama’s boy.
Avoid the mama’s boys at all costs. These boys will always listen to their mom and their mama rules their world. The mom will likely meddle in your business and make things super complicated. No fun.
I want to be married by next year.
Woah! Pump on the breaks buddy! If this guy is telling you that he wants to be married next year, things are moving way too fast and he's too aggressive. Walk out on him.
He's way under dressed.
Appearance is everything. If he is too lazy to wear jeans to dinner on the first date this is not a good sign.
He reveals some crazy family history.
His cousin is in jail. His sister is an alcoholic. Probably way too much personal information for the first date. The first date should be getting a basic knowledge of each other. Talk about the crazy family down the road.
He's rude to a server.
If the guy is rude to a server or someone else while you're out, this is a bad sign. It probably means that he is a jerk of that he has major underlying anger issues. Don't waste your time.
He asks to take your picture.
First off, this is really creepy if he asks you if he can take a picture of you. Second, this means that he will probably show it to his friends to see whether or not they think you're hot. He's shallow and only relying on looks. Don't let him trick you.