You have to be willing to experiment. This may sound too drastic for you, but experimenting does not mean the extreme. Experiment with everything and anything, you may be surprised what you’d been missing out on. Experiment with locations, positions, role playing, and the list goes on and on.
Guys and girls go back and forth on this one. It all depends on the individual, whether you like it or don’t like it. It is important overall to your physical relationship. This is a different level of intimacy, and it’s good to have contact in something other than sex. It doesn’t need to be done every time, but don’t disregard every time either.
Be Comfortable With Your Body
If you’re not comfortable with yourself physically, your sexual relationship is gonna take a big hit. You won’t feel completely comfortable with your partner unless you’re completely comfortable with yourself. You’re more likely to close yourself off, cover yourself off, and not be completely free. I’m not saying to have to be in perfect shape to have a good sex life, you have to own what you’ve got and know your partner loves you for all that you are.
Set The Mood
Decorate your bedroom, or room of choice, for your moment together. Candles, outfits, music, and any other ideas. You could instantly change your partners mood when they see the decor, and set them off for a great night together.
We just discussed in number 7 that no one is expecting you to have sex every single day (but I’m not advising against it!), but try your hardest to share some kind of intimacy every day. And no, a smooch does not count. A good cuddle, massage, or a heavy make out are perfect to fill up your non-sex days. And ensuring these moments of intimacy, will more often than not, lead into a yes-sex day.
Strictly for fun, and to loosen you up (it’s too hard to stay away from sexual puns). The more fun you’re having overall, the more exciting and meaningful your sex life will be together. A toy doesn’t have to be something drastic and extreme you saw in that one porn video you’ve ever watched… A toy can be as simple as a blindfold, or sex dice. Every couple has their limits, and what they’re comfortable with. Find out what works for you.
Women can get just as bored with sex as guys do. Once you become comfortable with your partner over time, your sex life can become too regular and mundane. One of you might prefer night time, and the other in the morning. Switch it up, and choose a time of day you’ve never done before, the mid-afternoon, or the middle of the night. If you have schedules that make this possible, get it going around the clock.
4 Days a Wk
Every couple has a unique schedule. If you’re lucky enough to work the same schedule, and have the same time off (if you’re both nine to fivers, or night shiftees), try and do the deed four times a week. It’s more than half your week, but not pushing for every single day. Even God took a day to rest. 4 days is a good happy medium and realistic. When it comes to sex quantity is just as important as quality.
If you’re comfortable enough with having this content on your phone… go for it. Have sex without having sex! Or get revved up for your rendezvous later. It’s important to let your partner know you’re thinking about them, and that you’re excited by them.
This is along the same lines of “Different Times”, but may be more important. The bed is great, we all love the bed, we have relationships with our beds, but think of all the other places in your house that are dying for some action. You don’t want them to be left out do you? Different locations spice your sexual relationship up. It will excite and confuse you. It’s important to always be changing it up. And don’t limit yourself to the house, theres a whole big world out there.
In a nutshell, kegel exercises can increase the intensity of an orgasm. Better orgasm is better for you, and ego boost for your partner, and a big positive for your sex life. They aren’t just for your women either, hit up google fellas.
Well you wanna know what you’re doing wrong, right? No no no, just kidding. This is just an idea for fun. Let out your inner porn star and go to town. You might be embarrassed, but this is also a great way to tear down your insecure walls. It’s also great to have when you’re away from your partner.
You don’t want to bore your partner. You’ve got to change up your positions. Not all the time, not every time. Changing positions might even show you a whole new world you didn’t know existed. Not just in sex, but in life, it’s important to change and try new things to fulfill that life. Apply the same in the bedroom.
Safe sex is good sex. Safe sex is healthy. If your not trying to get pregnant, take the proper precautions to ensure you don’t get pregnant. It’s hard to have a fulfilling sex life when you’re pregnant, or taking care of a newborn. Although it is certainly possible to have sex with your partner during these kinds of situations, it might be harder to maintain the fun in your sex life, and put a damper on the frequency.
Some things that will help your sexual relationship, have nothing to do with sex at all. You’d be surprised how eating healthy can change your sex life. Putting the right things in your body (ahem… food), is crucial to your energy levels. More energy, more sex. More energy, better sex. Throwing in a daily vitamin is great for the cause too.
This is for the exciting-fun factor. Sex doesn’t have to be something you pencil-in. For couples with conflicting schedules, sometimes planning is your only solution. But every now and again, be free to get at it out of nowhere. Whether your planning on surprising your partner, or the two of you exchange a look in the grocery store… being spontaneous will make for a better “session” together.
Leave Alcohol Alone, For the Most Part
Does it hurt or help the performance? Everyone is different. If alcohol can make you or your man last longer, don’t rely on this for good sex, because you could create a bad habit. I’m not saying don’t take advantage of it if it prevents itself, but don’t knowingly consume just for better sex later. And if you or your man know alcohol slows you down, turns you off, or shuts you off… leave it alone.
The Two Kinds of Sex
This could be the most important of all the advice given here. There’s sex, and there’s ‘love-making’. It’s playful sex versus passionate. Now, the two can most definitely coincide, but it’s important to not typecast your sex life. Don’t always be crazy and rough, and talk dirty.. make sure you also have that other kind of sex where you connect more than just physically. This will also impact your love life, not just your sex life.
Still Enjoy "Alone" Time
Your sex life with your man can be impacted by your sex life with, well, yourself. It’s been proven in studies that women who self-pleasure have higher sexual satisfaction overall. You’ll become excited more often and quicker with your partner, and if you don’t get the luxury of being with your man (from long distance, or conflicting schedules), it’s good to clean the cobwebs out once in a while.
Compliment each other on physical attributes. This will make you more free with yourself and your body always knowing that your partner loves your body. This is so important for your sex life. Knowing that your partner wants and worships the body you have is the biggest positive.
When you first get with that special someone, it’s almost impossible to keep your hands off each other. But as time goes on, it’s easy for the sexual activity to fade. There are a few select couples that keep the magic going into the golden years, and following are several tips to hopefully keep you on the same track. These tips are sure to spice up a bland sex life, keep the energy going to those continually thriving, and to maintain a healthy sexual relationship with your other half. Healthy is sex is sex you enjoy, are comfortable with, and that is positive for your relationship, which usually derives from having fun, and switching it up.